Performance Addiction is the belief that perfecting appearance and achieving status will secure love, happiness and respect. It is an irrational belief system hardwired early in life and reinforced by cultural expectations, especially American cultural expectations. As a result Performance Addicts have great difficulty maintaining intimate relationships. None of us fall in […]
What is a Spiritual Learning The spiritual learner is someone who realizes there is something beyond ourselves that influences and accounts for life events—an intangible that cannot completely be explained. For many this is the work of God; for others it is the work of the “Universe;” and for others it is simply an undefined
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When I wrote The Power of Empathy I defined empathy as the capacity to understand and respond to the unique experiences of another. I knew in my heart and through my experience that empathy was and is the key to personal and professional success. I was basing my opinions on my experience as a clinical
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In a recent group interaction two of my divorced female clients were wondering why they can’t seem to maintain intimate relationships with men. I commented that the answer to their dilemma was in the room, meaning that group members know each other well enough to provide a consensus of useful feedback regarding how people function
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Recently in a marital session a husband was apologizing to his wife for his angry outbursts when he comes home from work. “Doc, it’s in the genes, my father would take tantrums all the time, and my brothers are the same way”. I asked him if he got angry with his boss, if he got
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Here are the top 10 ways you can Change Your Story: We all write a story about ourselves early in life, realize it is always part fiction. If the mirrors you look into early in life are distorted, so is your view of yourself. Commit to seeing yourself accurately today. You cannot re-write your story
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Emphasize the goodness in family members and de-emphasize imperfections. Resist advice giving unless you’re specifically asked for your opinion. Listen more than you talk. Don’t use sarcasm as a means of connecting. Limit alcohol consumption as it detracts from genuine relating. Pay attention to the elders and the youngest, they are more in need of
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Remember you don’t get a new family for Christmas or Hanukah. Try to work on accepting the people in your life for who they are, not who you want them to be. Last year’s holidays are a good predictor of this year’s, make a mental note and prepare. Plan on something novel in your holiday
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10 Ways to Avoid Holiday Drama
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Andre Agassi’s recent revelations regarding his drug use, depression and hatred of playing tennis have attracted much attention. Some have thought his disclosures on national TV and print media were efforts to promote his new book, others have believed that he is purging himself to rid himself of the guilt and shame he has lived
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